Your boss is not your friend. Your boss is not someone you can trust. Your relationship with your boss needs to be entirely professional.
- Do not do your boss favours. No working for free. No doing unreasonable duties. No working outside the hours you state as available.
- Do not say anything to your boss. About anything. Keep it work related. They will only use personal information against you.
- Know your rights. Know the laws. Your boss will come at you trying to get you to quit like its a favour to you. Its usually because they can’t legally fire you.
- Be wary around your coworkers. Some will have no problem passing things along to your boss. Such as your mental health or financial standing
- Never offer to pay for anything lost, stolen or broken. Especially if money is missing from the till.
- Demand safe working conditions.
Your boss is only there to exploit your labour for profit. Unfortunately you need that labour to sustain yourself. Just be careful.
Your boss will likely act buddy/buddy with you. Let them. But don’t reciprocate. They tell you how they got wasted and are super hungover at work? You tell them how you wish you weren’t such a boring person who goes to bed at 10p every night. They tell you how much they don’t like your co-worker, you tell them that the co-worker tries their hardest.
super mega important: “They tell you how much they don’t like your co-worker, you tell them that the co-worker tries their hardest.”
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Sitting here reading this and I just…
My boss shares pictures of her grandkids– sometimes even has the grandkids in the store, lol, and if you stop to play with the kid for a few minutes that’s okay, unless they are actively calling for help on the floor. My boss helps customers on the salesfloor– though she doesn’t carry scissors or know how to use the cash register. My boss gets excited about my cosplay projects and excitedly shares her own projects with us– she dressed as Molly Weasley for comic con, got her husband to dress as Arthur. My boss took a quilting class at the store recently and excitedly showed me the first row she had put together.
I realize this post is targeted at people in lowest common denominator jobs, but… no. It’s not universal. I work at a store where my boss actually sees her employees like family.
Please if you are reading this, remember that not all jobs are like this. Sometimes people are actually not horrible.
Buddy I’m happy for you but I too had a boss who considered me part of the family and treated me with respect and kindness and compassion and he fired my ass with no notice the day after he found out I was queer
There’s not a damn thing wrong with not trusting your boss as far as you can throw them
One of the most important pieces of workplace advice I’ve ever heard was that “we’re like family here/we treat employees like family” inevitably translates into “we have a total lack of healthy boundaries and unreasonable expectations as to what you will do for us without compensation, and will likely act personally offended and possibly retaliate if you push back to assert your own space and life.”
This advice is relevant across all job classes, levels etc. Lemme tell you about the terrible fucking boss I had who pulled that we’re all family shit on me and when I tried to enforce some boundaries, harassed me until I had to take FMLA leave.
I was traumatized from how that fucker treated me when I went to a different school, to the point where I expected to be berated and fired for the tiniest mistake.
Fuck this trusting your boss bullshit, like ever. Something about being in charge changes people, usually for the worst
No but this is legit. My new boss thinks he is the coolest, friendliest most likeable guy. When I was temping he was going on and on about how his company was like a family environment all this shit. The day I was hired full time I told him I had family vacation coming up in 2 months and he suggested I cancel it. I’m looking at this dude who was talking out the side of his mouth about family and then he is BUGGING about giving me a few days to see my family. I knew if I caved he would have really just let me cancel my vacation so I didn’t budge and he gave me the days off. Fast forward to this week and he hands out a new company policy that literally says we arent allowed to speak to each other during work hours unless everyone in earshot is on a scheduled break. do you know how crazy that is? human beings talk to each other. then I find out that my coworker never got maternity leave. she was in labor doing the fucking payroll and this guy legit just saw it as her being loyal.
YOUR BOSS IS NOT YOUR FRIEND!
Please remember that if they fuck up they will blame you. Always be prepared. Your boss is not your friend!
Got rear ended by a grabage truck after being called in early when I got out of the hospital my boss reemed me out because she had to work my shifts while I was in the hospital. Among other shitty things like demanding I remeber store protocol even thought I suffered a concussion in my accident. (And was working in a neck brace)
So. Fucking. Important.
My boss, the owner, has been very good to me, as far as small capitalists go. Put $100 in my stocking and shit, paid one of my phone bills. But I’ve seen her be real good to others before and in front of me, and slit their throats when the need came.
Appreciate what you’ve got, don’t put yourself in jeopardy, but remember your class. They are not your fucking friends. They are the enemy. Don’t betray your class. Take this shit to heart. Please.
- Anyone who exploits your labor isn’t a friend. Never forget if your boss is living the good life and you are scraping by they are taking advantage of you friends don’t do that. Even if they give you good pay and full benefits they always have the ability to take it away if you screw up, get sick , or times get tough. So bosses are not friends.
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