I just found this this amazing thread on r/trollxchromosomes and it’s the best thing I’ve read all day.
The text, in case you have trouble reading the screenshot:
The moment I decided to stop playing the game of ‘be gentle and amicable’ with my male coworkers (and bosses, and subordinates) was the moment that I started getting heard.
In that scenario, my response would be: “please repeat back the instruction I just gave you.” The onus is on him, or her, or them, especially as your subordinate, to listen. If they can’t complete a basic function, then they’re shit at their job (or at least working with others) and should be removed.
Someone talks over me when I’m speaking in a meeting? Either continue to talk and refuse to be interrupted, or immediately follow their interruption with, “I haven’t finished speaking, please save your comment for later.” Unless it’s absolutely relevant, you had the floor.
Male coworker brings up an idea, which is swiftly accepted/praised, that I JUST LITERALLY SUGGESTED? “I’m glad you agree with the idea of ____ that I introduced earlier in this meeting <reasons that show idea is understood by you, the person who introduced it>.” If I want to be patronising, especially in cases where it’s wilful idea snatching, I thank him for his ‘continued support’.
Refuse to be silenced. Get loud about the shit you do. Blow your own trumpet. Make a point of staying professional but calling out juvenile behaviour and treatment point blank. Of you, your female coworkers, your male coworkers, literally everyone.
LadyProfessorScience (in a reply):
I fully agree with you, it is so nice as the resident loud mouth to speak up for other women. I do this all the time with my male college students. “So what you are saying is that you agree with female student X who just voiced the same idea? You realize you don’t get participation points just for repeating other people’s ideas right?“
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